I don't know the clear definition of childhood friendship. Guess, its all about togetherness. I don't have a perfect framework to fix the ideal childhood friendship. Childhood friendships are more of playing. Ego is an integral part of any relationship at any stage of life. Imagine how adamant we were during our childhood. I had ego clash with friends of my childhood but those are like passing clouds;shapeless and last no longer than a day or two. But the problem was that i didn't have have enough buddies during my teens. I was very much detached from crowd. I had a reasonless inherent fear to mingle. It may be a Social phobia. The school days were deprived of close friends. Its all started when i joined Diploma (Courtesy: Poor performance in entrance examination). I was out of the circle for the first the first time. For the first time, i had a sense of protection when i was in group. I was bustling out to make friendship like a hungry animal (Social Animal!!!). I reinvented myself to adjust with different personalities. I got inspired, endorsed, encouraged, amused, comforted, helped, soothed by my friends. I learned to respect the difference. My first slam book written by my friends when i was out of PSG Polytechnic gives a different perspective of me. I joined Btech at SSM College of Engineering where i have encountered a different breed of friends who were experienced and had a practical acumen. Thats the time when my father passed away and that incident teaches about many aspects of life. 'Friendship' was one such aspect which nourished out of by worst times. I was overwhelmed by the gestures of my friends during those days and thereafter. I always tried to be the part of their life in all the Good/Bad moments. And working hard to keep this self-promise.
When the needs are fulfilled by the parents, enough time to call up and chat with friends for hours, all seems to be smooth. There would be a void when we join job, take the responsibility of the family and subsequently getting married. Particularly marriage brings a different colours to the friendship. More the depth of friendship, higher the chances of family friendship after marriage.
I strongly feel, the preconceived notion about the traits of a friend or pushing them to behave in our way doesn't helps the friendship at all. When i be myself and let the people have their space, i believe the friendship blossoms. I am still a reluctant guy to initiate a friendship but still am getting friends. I guess thats the norm of friendship. But from my view there should be common ground for the stakeholders(friends) in friendship. It can be interest, hobby, cause, etc.
We guys used to discuss about the friendship of a girl and a boy . Mostly we conclude that it won't last for long at least after the girl's marriage. But it has been proved wrong and it would be myth within this generation. From my experience, when there is a mutual respect, friendship lasts long.
Its difficult to get a true friend after college! True, its difficult but its not impossible. I came across wonderful people who were no match with me in age, status, education etc. But still it doesn't stop us to become friends. So avoiding prejudice is the best way to get good friends even after college.
Here comes maintaining friendship! Is it tough nowadays? Yes, its damn difficult. At Least with advent of social network. You may say, "Damn, What the hell are you saying? Social network kills friendship?". Yes its killing because i felt that i am not spending quality time with friends. I have an illusion that i am closely following the friends on day-to-day basis. But that gives me contention thats not very profound in nature. Actually i should have to call or meet to discuss about the life, crack jokes, share the joy/sorrow. Its not like we have to speak on daily basis. It should be like that we have to share the bond with which we can start where we left (even if its before 2-3 years). As like every other relationship friendship also needs a quality time.
My friends are the ones who boosted my morale and one of the reasons for my present being.I have to thank my friends for whatever they gave to me. I don't know whether i am justifying the friendship but trying hard to do so.
Happy Friendship Day to my friends who have a warmth place for me in their hearts!
When the needs are fulfilled by the parents, enough time to call up and chat with friends for hours, all seems to be smooth. There would be a void when we join job, take the responsibility of the family and subsequently getting married. Particularly marriage brings a different colours to the friendship. More the depth of friendship, higher the chances of family friendship after marriage.
I strongly feel, the preconceived notion about the traits of a friend or pushing them to behave in our way doesn't helps the friendship at all. When i be myself and let the people have their space, i believe the friendship blossoms. I am still a reluctant guy to initiate a friendship but still am getting friends. I guess thats the norm of friendship. But from my view there should be common ground for the stakeholders(friends) in friendship. It can be interest, hobby, cause, etc.
We guys used to discuss about the friendship of a girl and a boy . Mostly we conclude that it won't last for long at least after the girl's marriage. But it has been proved wrong and it would be myth within this generation. From my experience, when there is a mutual respect, friendship lasts long.
Its difficult to get a true friend after college! True, its difficult but its not impossible. I came across wonderful people who were no match with me in age, status, education etc. But still it doesn't stop us to become friends. So avoiding prejudice is the best way to get good friends even after college.
Here comes maintaining friendship! Is it tough nowadays? Yes, its damn difficult. At Least with advent of social network. You may say, "Damn, What the hell are you saying? Social network kills friendship?". Yes its killing because i felt that i am not spending quality time with friends. I have an illusion that i am closely following the friends on day-to-day basis. But that gives me contention thats not very profound in nature. Actually i should have to call or meet to discuss about the life, crack jokes, share the joy/sorrow. Its not like we have to speak on daily basis. It should be like that we have to share the bond with which we can start where we left (even if its before 2-3 years). As like every other relationship friendship also needs a quality time.
My friends are the ones who boosted my morale and one of the reasons for my present being.I have to thank my friends for whatever they gave to me. I don't know whether i am justifying the friendship but trying hard to do so.
Happy Friendship Day to my friends who have a warmth place for me in their hearts!
